10 Feng Shui Tips for Increasing Love and Romance

Feng Shui practitioners believe that the best way to attract love is to adjust your environment accordingly. Dingy surroundings, piles of clutter, and self-absorbed artwork can actually drive Cupid from your door. Here, then, are 10 simple tips for finding your perfect mate... or for increasing the passion in your long-term relationship or marriage.

Create Cozy Seating Arrangements
Single chairs send a loud and clear message to prospective suitors and spouses: Back off! If you're looking for love, create cozy seating arrangements from love seats, sofas, and chairs. Putting chairs at comfortable angles to each other will signal that you're ready to welcome a relationship.

Replace Images of Lone Figures with Pictures of Happy Couples
Artwork has a tremendous impact on the subconscious. When you surround yourself with photos, paintings, sculptures, and knickknacks of solitary figures, you'll carry yourself accordingly. Replacing such images with representations of happy couples will make you more receptive to love.

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Keep the Television Out of the Bedroom
Nothing kills romance like the drone of late night television. If you have trouble falling asleep, try unwinding by reading love poetry or romantic novels. Your subconscious will shift accordingly, making you a virtual love magnet.

Treat Yourself to Sensual Bedding
That old ratty pillow from college and those serviceable sheets aren't doing your sex life any favors. Go ahead and splurge on pillows, blankets, and sheets that invite you to linger in bed.

Downsize from a King to a Queen
Sleeping on a huge mattress won't encourage intimacy. Invest in a comfortable queen-sized bed if you’d like to cultivate more love in your life. If you simply can't make the switch, make sure to sleep on patterned sheets to add some zest to your sex life.

Make Space for Each Other
Avoid making your partner feel crowded out by your possessions by reducing your personal clutter in shared areas of your home, closets, drawers, etc. When you demonstrate you are willing to share your physical space generously with your partner, the space in your hearts can open up, too.

Pull Your Bed away from the Wall
Pushing your bed against the wall effectively crowds out any chance for love to expand in your life. Arrange your bed so that it has enough space to walk on either side. Before you know it, you’ll be cuddling close with your special someone, instead of hugging your pillow for comfort as if you were alone.

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Make Your "Gua" a Shrine to Love
Using the front door of your home as a reference point, the far right corner of your home represents relationships and is known as the "Relationship Gua" in Feng Shui. Therefore, you need to keep this area intimate and inviting. A love seat illuminated with adjustable lighting is ideal for this special spot.

Keep the Family at Bay
Your bedroom represents your romantic life. Therefore, the last images you want to see here are photos of dear old Mom and Dad. Children's artwork and toys will also undermine your sex life. Celebrate these relationships in other areas of your household, but keep your boudoir a private retreat.

Think Pink!
Warm colors like pink and red can enliven your love life considerably. Soft shades like rose, salmon, and coral can attract a gentle partner who is attentive to your needs, while bold colors like scarlet, crimson, and burgundy will draw a passionate adventurer to your side.

5 Stages of a Breakup-00-77

If you're in a relationship that is about over - meaning the relationship seems to have fizzled out how are you going to end it? One of you has to. Some times relationships will keep going long after the "spark" is gone because ending a relationship can be very hard. Does breaking up have to be difficult? If you've been thinking "how do I end a relationship" so that neither of us gets hurt here is some helpful tips.
1. First you need to be very clear as to why you want the relationship to stop. The "easiest" reason that pops into your head may not be the real reason at all. Dig down deep and be sure you have a clear understanding of why you want the relationship to end.
2. Be honest with yourself and your partner. Now isn't the time to beat around the bush or fabricate lies. In most cases people deserve honesty. In the end each of you will be better off if you are truthful regarding the break up.
3. Whenever possible, end the relationship face to face. Avoid breaking up over the phone. If you and your soon to be ex live far from each other then it is better to break up over the phone vs. waiting for a time when you can be together. Do it sooner than later.
4. Be compassionate. The break up should not be nasty or mean especially if you want to stay friends later. Be sympathetic to their feelings as well as your own.
5. When considering "how do I end a relationship" remember not to put your partner on the defensive. Don't throw out accusation after accusation. Talk about the wonderful times and the memories that you will embrace. Try to respond to their needs during the break up if possible.
Ending a relationship is very hard most of the times. If you are wondering "how do I end a relationship" without harming someone of course there are no guarantees. We can not predict how another person will react or how emotional they will get. But if you follow this advice breaking up can be made a little easier for both parties involved.
--AllanR writes articles on relationships. The Magic of Making Up. This is a great book on relationships that every one in a relationship should have.

The 6 Stages by Michele OMara

It was 1979 and I was 13 when the beautiful new girl in school, with long brown hair and green eyes, approached the locker next to mine. Obviously struggling to satisfy the lock she was trying to open, she turned to me and said, "Hi." She told me her name and said, "I'm new here." Out of the blue, my entire body flooded with what felt like a million butterflies all trying to get out at once.
It was at that moment that I knew there was something very, very different about me.
Ironically, that same year psychologist Vivienne Cass unveiled a 6-stage model of sexual identity development for gays and lesbians which would prove to be very handy information for a budding young lesbian like myself. Sadly, however, her research was not on my 8th grade reading list and I was left to figure all of this out by myself.
This six stage model by Cass describes a progression of phases that gay men and women go through as they "come out." It has been my observation that many people never get past stage four - how about you?
Here are the stages, see what you think.
STAGE 1: IDENTITY CONFUSION
"Am I gay?" This is where it all begins... with the wondering. Confusion and a general lack of clarity are the most common experiences during this stage. This is a pre-coming out stage and it's unlikely that you share your feelings with anyone. You are faced with four options: deny, reject, accept, or do more research. If you choose to "accept," please advance to stage 3. If you choose to "deny" this, skip your turn and stay here until you change your mind. If you choose to "reject," head on back to heterosexuality. Those choosing "more research," progress to stage 2!
Stage 2: IDENTITY COMPARISON
"Yes, it's possible, I could be gay." This is the "one of these is not like the others" stage (from Seaseme Street). This can be a very lonely, scary place - to not relate to your heterosexual peers, and to not have a network of gays and lesbians in place to normalize what you are feeling. During this stage you'll find yourself noticing what fits for you, and what doesn't as it relates to your sexual orientation. There is a lot of fear, denial, and hope that this is just a passing phase. Once you begin to connect with, or learn about, other gays and lesbians you slowly move into stage three.
Stage 3: IDENTITY TOLERANCE
"I'm pretty sure I'm gay." The isolation of feeling different from your heterosexual peers tends to motivate you to get out (or get online) and meet other gays and lesbians. During this stage you are gaining clarity about your gay sexual orientation, but you are not too happy about it. You continue to censor and hide your feelings from most people, while seeking connections with "safe" (other gays and lesbians) people with whom you can relate.
Stage 4: IDENTITY ACCEPTANCE
"Yep, I'm gay alright!" As you begin to find your place among other gays and lesbians, you develop greater comfort in your skin and you find more comfort spending time around others like yourself. As a result, you start to distance yourself from a heterosexual identity, while often trying to maintain the appearance to those around you that everything is the same. This is a complicated place to be, and is often riddled with fear, sadness, and even depression because of the feeling of living in between two worlds. There is a lot of anxiety about what it would mean to step out fully into an openly gay identity. The stress of managing dual identities (passing as heterosexual in some environments, and not others) becomes stressful and overwhelming.
Stage 5: IDENTITY PRIDE
"I am gay and I'm proud of it." Responses in this stage can range from feelings of anger toward your perceived oppressor (heterosexuals), to greater comfort with being out in all areas of your life, without apology. This stage brings greater confidence about who you are, and while you continue to prefer the company of your gay and lesbian peers, you put less energy into censoring your life from others.
Stage 6: IDENTITY SYNTHESIS.
"Being gay is just one important aspect of who I am." This final stage, for those who continue to take the necessary risks to be true to themselves, brings the gay or lesbian person full-circle. You can now function as if sexual orientation is not a central variable in life. Here you have integrated your sexual orientation with the rest of your life, you are able to make decisions, interract socially, and function in life without doing so through a filter of your sexual orientation. Your life is no longer about dealing with, concealing, censoring, or advocating for the right to be gay - it is about living, loving, and being with ALL of who you are.
So where do you fall in these stages?

Warmly,
Michele OMara